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Post by Amtram on Feb 28, 2014 11:27:19 GMT -5
I interrupt people all the time with things that seem to have no bearing on the conversation, because I have to say what I'm thinking because the thought will disappear forever if I don't get it out. It might not make sense in the context of what we're talking about, but something that was said (or something I saw while we were talking) triggered a memory in my convoluted mental filing system.
I say things that offend people or that they take personally because I myself don't have the emotional attachments that they do - it wouldn't bother me if someone said it to me, so it doesn't occur to me that it would bother someone else.
I get irritated or angry way beyond what's appropriate when people ask me to do things or even just start talking to me for the same reason as up at the top - I'm engaged in a thought, desperately trying to focus on it and maybe even finish it, and that interruption sends my train of thought off the tracks and over a rocky cliff.
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Post by dotty on Feb 28, 2014 21:57:16 GMT -5
That all sounds rather familiar to me. I'm getting better about not interrupting others with every thought that pops into my head ... some of the time. I can understand how things might offend others ... after I've said it, not before. Taking an antidepressant for anxiety issues has helped me stay calmer when being interrupted mid thought, mid read, mid tv show/movie, mid typing a response ... most of the time.
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Post by Amtram on Mar 1, 2014 13:14:55 GMT -5
I also have a really, really, really hard time feigning interest. I know some people can zone out, but when I'm not interested it's so incredibly difficult that I do stuff that appears really immature. I'll look around, fiddle with objects nearby, even walk away or get up and leave. I don't want to, and I know it seems really rude to the people around me, but I feel like an animal in a cage. The longer it goes on, the closer I get to panic.
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Post by coachrutt55 on Apr 27, 2014 23:21:49 GMT -5
When I'm in a bar or restaurant I twist and/or shred napkins, coasters and straws. I have to be doing something with my hands.
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Post by Amtram on Apr 30, 2014 7:04:53 GMT -5
Yeah, those fidgety habits are hard to break. And if you do manage to get rid of one, you always seem to substitute another for it.
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Post by chikkaccino on May 5, 2014 22:36:37 GMT -5
When I'm in a bar or restaurant I twist and/or shred napkins, coasters and straws. I have to be doing something with my hands. By the time I was 16, I mastered making paper napkin roses while having to sit in restaurants. I often interrupt people when I have something I deem important to say, and I'm just not seeing an opening to NOT interrupt. Otherwise, I'm a pretty quiet person. I've gotten too many "WTF are you talking about?" stares in my lifetime. 2 AM is my normal bedtime. Has been since I was 13. I wake up (unwillingly) at 7 AM. In my early 20's I used to get anxiety so bad I'd stay up 24-72 hours at a time, a very long time ago before my diagnosis. That whole hyper focus thing can be a pain, literally. Especially playing Dance, Dance Revolution. For 8 hours straight. I hate grocery shopping, especially on weekends. Everyone moves through the aisles like they have lead weights on their shoes. Sent from my Galaxy Note 3 using Tapatalk
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Post by Amtram on May 6, 2014 10:03:52 GMT -5
Most of the time when people don't understand what another person is saying and ask "What?" they mean they missed the last few words, so the speaker repeats what he/she said last. When I say "What?" I mean that I finally started paying attention at the last part, and need the first part repeated, because that's what they were saying before I was listening. I am no longer ashamed to tell people that, and it makes my life so much easier. But most people don't get it because it's so different from "normal."
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Post by stef2 on May 8, 2014 13:19:57 GMT -5
i know, i hate that!!! my poor husband, i just catch the end of a long sentence, usually...
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Post by conman on Jun 22, 2014 23:56:24 GMT -5
i pronounce some words differently because i like my pronunciation better or cuz it's hilariouser. i also still prefer going up the stairs on all 4s. and i use a few euphemisms that disturb people
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Post by LadyJen on Sept 10, 2014 19:05:41 GMT -5
Most of the time I don't even remember peoples' names. I hardly pay attention when I'm introduced then kinda zone out while they're talking. I also interrupt people alot too. I just HAVE TO say what's on my mind RIGHT THEN! Sometimes I'll just agree because it's easier than asking them to repeat themselves (again). Let's just say my social life is pretty awesome. lol
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Post by oliiviia on Oct 12, 2014 11:35:49 GMT -5
How do "normal" people make new friends/ new relationships!? I am a female and have such a hard time meeting other females. Meeting men is not as hard because I'm kind of attractive I think and they will talk to me regardless of any weird things that come out of my mouth - is that rude to say? Sorry. But with women, they are not attracted to me, obviously, and they do not care for my quirky personality. I've been told I'm too happy, too smiley, too proper/square, too quiet, too confrontational, and that I just say things that are awkward, or say normal things but in an awkward way. I really don't know how to form new deep relationships because I can't even create a single deep meaningful conversation with a new person!!
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Post by Amtram on Oct 12, 2014 11:47:41 GMT -5
I have to be honest - forming deep, meaningful relationships is hard, period. ADHD sometimes makes it even harder because maintaining a long-term relationship requires a lot of the very kind of focus ADHD takes away from us. I'm celebrating my 25th wedding anniversary in a month, and that completely blows my mind.
My only good advice is to get out and meet LOTS of people. Like, more than most people do. It's harder for us to find people who'll put up with us, so we just need a bigger pool to choose from. Volunteering is good, not only because you can meet people with similar interests that way, but also because a lot of volunteer activities take place over a limited timespan, so if you like it you can sign up for the next event, and if you don't, you can move on.
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