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Post by oliiviia on Oct 12, 2014 10:56:43 GMT -5
24, female, Midwest! Was diagnosed about 2 years ago. I am here to meet others who are dealing with add/adhd!
Ask me anything!!
I am wondering if anyone else deals with being socially awkward! I have a hard time making new friends. Either I get too excited and I treat new people as if we have been friends for years (which I guess can seem fake, or something), or I completely shut down and become too shy to even carry on a conversation. It sucks! Anyone else have that issue?
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Post by Amtram on Oct 12, 2014 11:31:34 GMT -5
Social awkwardness is, unfortunately, part of the package. ADHD makes it very easy to do things like interrupt people, say the wrong thing (either because you weren't paying attention and had to say something, or just said the first thing that came to mind, for example) and that just doesn't make people like being around you all that much. For me, finding the right medication helped to both curb my behavior and be able to step back and analyze what I was doing so I could teach myself what triggered it and how to avoid doing it when triggered.
Does it still happen? Yes. Medication and self-discipline don't make an inherent trait disappear. It just happens less often.
What helped me the most was spending a lot of time with lots of different people and finding that the ones who put up with my quirks would make excellent, supportive friends, and the ones who didn't, I just didn't need in my life. You can't make people happy, and if you put a lot of effort into trying to do so with people who want you to be different from who you are, you're just going to end up frustrated and disappointed. If people like that reject you, then you've saved a ton of time by just accepting the rejection and moving on to people who aren't so demanding and judgmental!
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